We’re taught to be hard on ourselves, and not see the positives in us and our lives. Let’s take a moment to look at rhe good. We make great decisions sometimes! What’s the best one you ever made?

  • ZDL@lazysoci.al
    9·
    21 days ago

    Hands down my move to China. I moved here shortly after 9/11 (the move was planned months before, not causal) for “a year or two” to “get in touch with half my heritage”.

    I went back to Canada for 2 months in 2003. I went back to Canada for 6 weeks in 2016. I went back to Canada for two months in 2024. I have no plans, immediate or long-term, to move back permanently. I just found myself here; found out what it means to be (mostly) accepted instead of tolerated.

    • VioletSoftness@piefed.blahaj.zoneEnglish
      2·
      20 days ago

      it’s so nice to be accepted for who you are!

      are you on xiaohongshu? I love the chinese people on there they are so accepting, creative, encouraging and kind!

      • ZDL@lazysoci.al
        3·
        20 days ago

        I have a little social media presence on WeChat and QQ, but not on Xiaohongshu, no. I don’t use commercial social media of any kind very often, so never saw a need to sign up.

        Little note about XHS, though: when that flood of Americans signed up in defiance of the TikTok ban, Chinese social media everywhere lit up with people admonishing users to be polite and kind to the Americans to give them a good impression of Chinese people.

        Picture the reverse and Twatter …

        • VioletSoftness@piefed.blahaj.zoneEnglish
          2·
          20 days ago

          fair! I wasn’t a tiktok or instagram or facebook user because of their policies but i checked XHS out when i saw people here on lemmy talk about them. It’s an oasis compared to what i have experienced on those other platforms because it’s mostly women and when you report folks being shitheads (mostly Americans and Russians) the reports are actually dealt with in a timely fashion!

          Congrats to you on finding acceptance it seems like a lovely country.

          • ZDL@lazysoci.al
            2·
            20 days ago

            It is by no means a perfect country. (I don’t believe such exists.) But I’ve been happier here than anywhere outside of my five years in Germany as a teen.

            I once though “microaggressions” weren’t a thing, let’s put it that way. Until I came here and found out that I’d been burdened by them for practically my entire life to the point I thought that was just how life worked. The load being lifted was … nice.

  • VioletSoftness@piefed.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    9·
    21 days ago

    running away from my extremely abusive families when I was a teenager. It’s one decision that I have no doubt about, I truly shudder to imagine what a wretch I might be if I had never gotten out of there.

  • Triasha@lemmy.world
    8·
    20 days ago

    Best decision ever? Marrying my wife. She is my rock and my love.

    Second best? Transitioning. It’s close because I don’t know if I would have made it to marriage without transitioning.

  • AnarchistArtificer@slrpnk.netEnglish
    7·
    20 days ago

    To go on a silly Scandinavian road trip with my late best friend. We had a silly dynamic where one of us would say “wouldn’t it be funny if we [did silly thing]”, then the other would say “let’s do it”. We bounced off each other in a way that amplified our ridiculousness. What I particularly enjoyed is that we would frequently switch roles in the above exchange, so it was always varied. Usually, the one saying “wouldn’t it be funny if…” wasn’t even fishing for someone to urge them to do the thing, which made it all the more amusing when the other would call the bluff, so to speak.

    The silly roadtrip is a great example of something great Id have never done without my friend’s influence.

  • dandelion (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    5·
    20 days ago

    there are too many, it’s hard to choose 😅 I sometimes joke that being hit by a car was the best thing to happen to me - it forced me to withdraw from all the stress in my life, and I spent three months completely disabled and unable to work.

    That was time I invested in my mental health and well-being, since I could basically do nothing, and much good has come of that. I am unrecognizable now compared to my life before the accident.