Sorry mate just got this. It’s so respectful of you to ask these questions! I really appreciate it. You’re welcome to read and we realle value support with upvotes. Sharing probably isn’t best because the incels pile on when they see our name, so you’ll probably get a lot of shit for it. But we love the fact that you’re quietly cheering us on ❤️

Thanks so much for posting this! WomensStuff is 100% committed to LGBT inclusion. We are women only, and trans+ women and non binary are totally welcome here. Homophobia, transphobia, biphobia and gender critical is not. 🏳️‍🌈🌈🏳️‍🌈

Hey music!

Confirmed! This is our Dandelion

Thanks Music that’s a really nice thing to say. If it helps I’ve not staggered over any nasty stuff on either of my instances, so they feel pretty safe

Haha thanks I don’t like it that much though! I’ll trade you, I love your name 😍

Ah I picked cheesetoastie off the top of my head cos it was gender neutral so I’d get attacked less (sad but true). I then started WomensStuff so my gender was blown anyway. I never liked CheeseToastie, I prefer LadyButterfly cos I’m a girly girl. Being on different instances mean I can see some communities and groups that my other instance can’t cos not all instances are federated with other.

Yes it feels more like old school message boards where you were a proper community. It was a totally different feel back then

Thanks for telling me that. That’s a lot to juggle, you need money to survive in life. Nearly everything costs money, even water is billed and it’s sometimes horribly hard to make ends meet. Everything to make life less shit costs money. It grinds you away.

You’re being sensible and you know your limits, you know programming is good money but you’re too frazzled. Looking at alternatives is really sensible… you won’t learn well, and therefore won’t earn if you’re too frazzled to absorb programming. It’s not now or never you can put it on the back burner.

I’m glad you’re reaching out about it, it’s the right thing to do and you need and deserve our support right now. We’ve got your back

It’s fine music I wouldn’t have asked if I wasn’t ok hearing the answer. You can offload any time

Wow Aizawa you’ve done amazing. You’re alive, healthy and your mental health is far better. You’re doing so well in day to day life it’s incredible

It sounds like you feel disappointed in where you are right now. That’s not a nice feeling, it’s hard. What’s caused that disappointment?

Np anytime 😊

Abusive complaint about the female and non white people only? What a shocking surprise! Not. Being seen as the victim is one of misogynists favourite things to do. So glad he’s gone and well done for getting through that

Oh ffs. Blame shifting is a classic abusive personality characteristic, and at best it shows he’s a dick.

Oh good grief. There was no need to be condescending, if he thought you were being ridiculous he could have just asked you why you were asking these questions. But instead he chose to rub your face in his superiority and try to embarrass you in the process. Did he realise he faceplanted?

Ah thanks flicker that’s a really nice thing to say 😀

Finally good news!

Oh they are cuuuutteee thanks 😊

Thanks for deleting Sit it’s really kind of you