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Cake day: April 14th, 2025

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  • I came of age during the PS3 era and the Indie Game Revolution, where people were debating on whether video games could be art, so I personally can’t help but prefer when games have storytelling and ludonarrative and lore.

    But for many people, Super Metroid’s lack of a plot will be a draw and not a drawback, and that’s cool. I’d actually really love a new nonlinear Metroid game in the vein of Super someday, and perhaps this time it wouldn’t take place on the planet Zebes.

    I have AM2R archived on my computer. I’m very excited to try it!




  • My watch collection. I love the Casio G-Shock line because they’re really practical, being repairable, really durable, and having all the features I need short of having a smartwatch.

    I prefer the womens’ Baby-G line – I have a black and gold steampunk-ish one that goes really well with my black dresses. But you can’t get any of the cool features with any of the womens’ watches, so I have a men’s athletic watch with a vibrating alarm, pedometer, and second counter; and a hiking watch that’s solar-powered and tells you the temperature and the phases of the moon.

    Aside from that, not really, unless you count flannels and unisex boots. I’ve found that clothes from the mens’ section are too baggy and hide my proportions. Even with womens’ clothes, I actively avoid “boyfriend fit” clothes which seem to be really common right now even though they’re identical to the mens’ clothes that are already being sold an aisle over.



  • 50/50. I live in a trans sanctuary city with a large LGBT presence. Pride events and businesses are welcoming, and people are generally nice. The cis friends I have left are really accepting. One of my best friends, who is a cis lesbian, stopped interacting with me after I came out. There’s a local TERF activist who lives down the street from me who has a radio show that’s fairly popular in our state. She does everything she can to make us feel unwelcome where we live. One victory: She used to vandalize stickers on road signs and buildings, put razor blades undernearth, and then the trans folks and allies put trans stickers over them – this went on for years. Then I had the idea to put stickers of adorable kittens over her stickers instead, and that put a stop to the sticker war, seemingly for good. It’s been almost two years now since we’ve seen any stickers.



  • Active listening and being a good communicator. After a lot of negative experiences, if I ever start noticing any of the “Four Horsemen” in an early stage of dating and they don’t see the problem, I’ve learned it’s best to just end things before you’re stuck in either an abusive relationship or one where you’re always viciously fighting. After the honeymoon phase ends, sometimes someone gets tired and respond poorly to things, which isn’t perfect but no relationship is perfect, but I think being consistently berated or stonewalled in a long-term relationship is a relationsip-ending red flag too.

    My partner and I, after three years at least, communicate really effectively, I feel, where we start from a point of working together to solve a problem, and it’s such a breath of fresh air.





  • So, I get that Leolines is all made by one person, and she’s doing us all a really great service, but I was disappointed by the quality after buying four and having the threads give out for three in the span of a few months. I’m still a novice steamstress, but I feel like splitting the most vulnerable point of the garment into two pieces of fabric (right where the tuck is) might be a design flaw.

    Overall, I personally prefer TomboyX. The stitching method is better and has stood the test of time for me. And PAKA Apparel undies actually tuck surprisingly well too, despite not being made for trans women.


  • My community is lucky to have a local grocery store, and it’s a co-op, so I’m very loyal to it.

    Otherwise, it’s hard to be a loyal customers when so many brands change for the worse. I did get a “Hey, I use their soap!” moment after seeing Dr. Bronner’s post about Pride and link to multiple pro-trans organizations they donate too, especially after so many brands have backed out this year. That was nice.


  • In my late 20s, my metabolism has left the building, and I got my first and hopefully only vericose vein.

    I still work at the entry-level job I got out of college where my wages are starting not to cut it, and I haven’t gotten a raise in three years. Also starting to think about how I’ll retire and whether I’ll ever own a home.

    It’s a bit harder to make friends now, and my existing social circles are starting to drift apart as people move, get married, or have kids.

    I’m noticing that I haven’t completed nearly as many of the personal aspirations I thought I would have marked off by now.


  • It’s frustrating. It feels like even progressive men here (not all, but many) aren’t willing to listen, while making it all about them. And because of the vast male majority, it feels like most threads on womens’ issues consist of off-topic defensive comments. I don’t recommend Lemmy to women either.

    That being said, you’re all worth it. Reddit as a whole isn’t what it once was. And womens’ Reddit communities tend to have lots of people, which can sometimes lead to negative spiraling when bad things happen. I get it, but it would make my mental health worse.

    On Lemmy, it’s a small, friendly space much like the old internet. I recognize a lot of the same folks on these communities. We uplift each other.

    Lots of people here can very hostile about us being here, but we’re making this place a little friendlier and more inclusive, and I’m glad we’re all here. We’ve got each other’s backs.






  • Rotten Pumpkin by Simon’s Nest is my favorite perfume ever. It smells like fall, with notes of patchouli, cinnamon, and pumpkin.

    It’s been my go-to fragrance for years, though I also like Wistful Hedges and Kitchen Witchery, by the same maker, Burberry London, although that’s tecnically a men’s fragrance, and Hattai Le Couvent, for what I can only describe as “Cinnabon stand at a mall.”

    I mostly just buy drugstore makeup lol. When I do my goth look though, I really like Manic Panic products.