I’ve asked a similar question not long ago and the consensus was pixel, even though I had already ruled them out in my question.
I still haven’t changed phones but I’m leaning on a nothing 2a, since it’s reasonably priced for the storage that I want.
However, I’ve been looking at phones based on the specs I want and check XDA forums and see how active they are, in the hopes I get a phone popular enough that has long term community support
Mine is nine with fairly intense use and it’s still in great condition.
I’m satisfied