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Cake day: August 14th, 2023

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  • Was he angry, scared off, or just thought I was easy?

    OP asked for possible reasons for why the man acted the way he did. It’s right there in the post that you apparently didn’t read. I offered one possible explanation based on experience.

    I’ve repeatedly said that nobody owes anything to anyone else. You are the person who keeps suggesting that I said different. You seem like you’re trying to paint me into a corner to try and get me to say something that I didn’t. You’re either arguing in bad faith, or are incapable of understanding someone else’s point of view.

    To clarify, yet again, the girls who would pull this trick would act as if they were interested in the guy that they chose, and were interested in sleeping with them. They were not interested in sleeping with them, they just wanted free drinks. The guys would find out at the end of the night that these girls were pretending to be interested just to get drinks, and would be annoyed that they had been tricked. At no point did anyone owe anything to anyone else.

    A guy who had been tricked like this in the past might avoid anyone that he thinks might be trying it in the future.

    Again, OP was clearly not doing this. I only offered this as a possible reason for the way that the guy in OP’s post had acted. It was based on my own experiences from running a nightclub for several years, and seeing people act the same way.

    I resent the fact that you’re trying to twist my words to make it sound like I think that people owe other people sex, and I’m done with you. Go troll someone else.



  • I know they’re not getting drunk off a sip, and didn’t say that the sip was the free drink.

    They’d do this to young single guys, the type who looked naive, and flirtily take a sip from the guy’s drink, making it clear that they wanted a drink of their own. The guy, usually being drunk and stupid, would fall for it and buy them drinks for as long as they kept flirting. At the end of the night, the girls would drop the act and just walk away.

    Obviously, nobody owes anyone else anything, and this clearly isn’t what OP was doing but if you’ve been burned by someone taking advantage in the past, you’re more likely to think that’s what’s happening again.



  • I witnessed something like this once. I worked for a pawn shop, wiping and reinstalling Windows on computers they were selling, but occasionally working on one of the counters if they were short staffed.

    One day a regular customer brought his PS2 in to trade, so it had to be tested first. The manager took it as a training moment for me and and a few others, and connected it to the main TVs around the store so that we could all see how he checked the system.

    The customer had left a rather hardcore DVD in the drive and completely forgotten about it, until it started playing on the big screen, and everyone in the store learned about his preferences.



  • I’m in the UK, and have been with my wife for about 20 years, so the context might be different, but when I was young and single, that was a big red flag.

    I know it’s not the way you meant it, but back then, the girls who did that were generally hard work. There was probably an 80 / 20 chance that they expected you to buy them drinks all night, and were just doing it for the free drinks. If you didn’t buy them, they’d grab the next guy who looked daft enough to fall for it.

    Unfortunately once you’ve been caught out by a few people like that, you tend to be suspicious of the genuine people too.

    Probably the best thing you could have done afterwards was to buy him a drink and say something like, sorry, I didn’t mean any offence, and leave him alone. Let him make the next move if there is one.