This is something I’ve always found a bit perplexing - US female combat troops often have long hair, which they keep up and tight while working.

Both me and my other half often do physical work (I’m a volunteer firefighter, she does arbourist work on the side) and neither of us can stand having long hair … if I were doing military work, I can’t imagine how needlessly uncomfortable that long hair is!

Same goes for women MMA fighters.

In other news, my other half looks like Sinead O’Connor when she shaves her hair, while I look more like a Gulag escapee for some reason … so I have to live with a pixie cut or longer.

How to do basic mindfulness meditation, which isn’t difficult.

I’m not usually into that sort of thing, but it does help.

I did a one day guided meditation course from someone who knew what they were doing … it has helped me sleep well ever since and generally avoid burnout when I’m under serious stress.

Boys will be boys!

Blahaj user and former Brit here … well done Ada for consistency and transparency regarding this.

The whole “let it play out” attitude really says it all, it shows cowardice and a lack of leadership … kind of like the current prime minister.

Sad to say, but that’s a familiar story.

It’s great that you’re now making efforts to right that sort of wrong now!

Please give her a hug from me. And if you happen to get a chance to stab her supervisor … well, I’ll not say do it, because that would be illegal. But sometimes accidents happen …

Yeah, that’s the thing, the majority if guys are OK or better … it’s just there’s enough arseholes to hold women and minorities back when there’s no or unenforced DEI

It’s very hard to not be polite when that’s how you’re raised to be from day one :-/

They break up a lot quicker if you run over them with a mower, which can also spread out the bits leaving a tidier looking lawn, thus keeping the HOA happy (maybe)

Yuuup. Woman in engineering here. I once had a supervisor whose behaviour I thought of as normal, but two guys I worked with separately reported him to HR for bullying after seeing how he treated me.

It’s funny, I had many years with almost no career progression, now my boss is a woman and I’m having to get used to the idea that bonuses and promotions are things that actually happen when I work hard.

I had that with a contractor who had had my number for work purposes. He kept trying for 5 years.

I’m a butch lesbian, my mistake was being polite and chatty with him.

Split the difference - VIC-64

(Think of it as a proto-C128)

Edit: also, that’s a Commodore monitor with the weird inputs … though I thought they were all grey. I need to get a life …

10 years ago I would have gleefully done either of those … 10 years ago I didn’t have the equivalent of $300 for shoes though.

(I still don’t, but I didn’t then, either)

I wish they could take it on board that men really can be compassionate, caring, and sensitive without it diminishing their masculinity … those who say otherwise are trying to keep them down so that they stay angry and lonely

It was a case if the right place, right time … since then every hobby I’ve tried has been chasing that, but I’ve not yet found the right thing.

Have you ever had that feeling?

In 2007 I started roller derby, up until that point I’d being doing figure skating on ice (badly) and didn’t fit in at all because while I was pretty fucking graceful I didn’t want to be all sparkly spandex. The dress code was very rigid.

At that time roller derby was very punk rock, we made our own outfits and getting bruises was a badge of honour. I fitted in well, and made good friends, we had fun, and the experience was about empowerment and having fun rather than winning.

Sometime around 2010 it started to change, there were power struggles over committee places, some teams split in two over petty crap, uniforms were professionally made so we could be “seen as real athelites” and some teams started to exploit the rules or even outright cheat in order to win.

I stopped playing, and my friend group drifted away because I’m naturally introverted … but for that bit of time I fitted in and was truly happy.

I still have some of the kit I made myself, and lots of happy memories and photos … sometimes I throw on a pair of quad skates and go for a roll around, and I can still do some of the graceful moves in the style of ice skating :-)

It’s a bank holiday weekend here, I managed to survive work and my plan is to basically sleep all of tomorrow to shake it off!

I hope you feel well and can enjoy the springtime on your side of the pond too :-)

Yeah, that’s a thing. The assholes are so motivated, too. I don’t know where they get the energy

Thank you … I will take your offering and retreat back under the duvet, and feel slightly less sorry for myself