Not federate with vlink, that’s for sure.

This is weak bait

Ada was handling everything really well. But yeah, Hexbear used to be Chapo, they had to make the migration to Lemmy because they were really bad about accidentally brigading shit and got banned from Reddit for it. Ada (and also me) gave them a bigger pass than they deserve instance wide.

Insane has always been an ableist term, albeit depending on the context. Insane Asylums have horrible optics for a reason. It’s like how retarded used to be proper medical terminology, but because of popular adaption of those terms as derogatory terms, you’re not gonna hear a doctor say “yeah your son or retarded” is “you are insane”. They’re only used as insults now

Well I’m not saying leaving someone for preferences is bad. It happens. But to enter into a relationship knowing that your preferences wouldn’t work with your partner, that’s shitty.

I already made my account over there. I was on Chapo when it got banned from Reddit and just never made the jump over back then, but federation really does make all the difference.

I’d describe it by explaining that it’s unhealthy to have a partner that doesn’t like who you want to be. A pre-op trans man is a man. Treating them like a woman during sex would likely make them feel dysphoric. Having a partner that they know wouldn’t be attracted to them if they actually transitioned would just suck. If you identify as a straight man, it would be invalidating of the trans man’s identity to fuck them anyways because you see them as a hot woman.

On the “chubby chaser” bit, think of it like this. I love fat girls, tummy soft 🥺 however, my girlfriend could lose weight if she wanted to. If she would feel more confident with 100 less pounds, that’s okay because it’s her body and I want her to be happy with her own appearance. If I got with a fat girl who wanted to lose weight and I made her feel bad about it because “then you won’t be hot anymore” that would be kinda shitty right?

Yeah, saying this right now, 196’s main mod consistently posts bait. Ada is a great admin and community runner, I feel bad that I have to consistently see her step in because Moss fucks up so much obvious and easy shit. Moss posting a blurred picture of her conversations with Hexbear admins and blaming the blurring on Ada is shitty, posting ableist slurs and using them in mod messages to people calling you out is shitty.

These are actions that cause a lot of drama within the community, and take less than a few seconds of thought to know they’re bad ideas. Moss consistently wants a drama filled community and it sucks. It’s like the second one of these ridiculous bait post become old news, OH SHIT HERE’S A NEW ONE FOR EVERYBODY TO SALIVATE OVER!!!

Ah that makes sense. Like I said, I don’t watch him so I didn’t know about the slurs. Yeah he’s pretty much the only mainstream streamer who actually understands being a leftist.

Hasan just sucks for far different reasons. Vaush is actively aggressive towards leftist people of color. Maybe I just haven’t seen enough cause I don’t watch react streamers, but Hasan just seems a bit out of touch because of his money. As far as streamers go, I think he receives far more hate than is warranted.

My kiddo is autistic and non-verbal. I am enraged over this. And I bet it was on 196 too. I’m done with Moss’ shit, she cannot moderate in a safe space because she only cares about it being her safe space, not the community’s. I’ve seen so much casual bigotry pop up in these anti-hexbear threads and it’s really eye opening. So much dehumanization and gatekeeping of the queer experience. I’m officially done with 196. This was already my backup instance, I’ve just been waiting for FMHY to start back up.

Ada is a really fucking cool admin, she is a great community runner. But 196’s mod team is consistently a single tier above 4chan trolls.

Vaush is so fucking bad. Dude explicitly defends his use of slurs on stream. Why can Vaush call people the n word? Slurs have no place in a leftist space. My child is non-verbal, this mod is using the language people insult my child. The comments left by OP were calm and reasonable. The mod didn’t even try to argue it in public because they know there isn’t a good response to “don’t use slurs”.

“x-tard” will never be and has never been funny. Disappointed that the mods would take down calling that out. Hexbear has been making some pretty good arguments about the overwhelming white middle class-ness of the instance. The fact that the only Vaush community I’ve seen is on Blahaj is a great example of it. Even Reddit libertarians aren’t cool with using “tard” though. This is literally worse than Reddit libertarian moderation, and that’s pathetic coming from a space that’s supposed to be inclusive.

I’m not saying I hate hexbear or anything adjacent. I was a member of Chapo before it left Reddit and just didn’t make the jump. The John Brown thing was topic of the week when it was taken down, but what I remember the most from Chapo was the poop ball pig spam. Hilarious? Yes. Annoying? Also yes.

Yeah, Hexbear is old Chapo, they left Reddit for Lemmy years ago. Because honestly, ChapoTrapHouse was a problematic community sometimes.

Hexbear is widely old Chapo. They’re an odd bunch, but honestly I’d defed Lemmy.world long before Hexbear was in sigh.

Oh nevermind I found it

Where’s the ad? I didn’t find one

Yeah, Blahaj is an unabashed trans support space. My main instance is FMHY and that’s a pretty hardcore free speech instance, so I’m not against free speech. But Blahaj just isn’t a hardcore free speech space, there are simply other spaces people can get that. Our content simply isn’t fit for those instances that don’t want to moderate hate speech.

Plus having multiple accounts isn’t even discouraged on the fediverse, many people have accounts just for Beehaw and will say as such, I have an account just for Blahaj and have no problem saying that. The good people from bad instances are more than welcome to make an account here, granted they follow the rules.

Phishing. Unless he provided some sort of specific information, it’s just bait and nothing to worry about. Honestly, these people are dumb too. Even psychics know when they’re finding new people, they just say something super specific and hope it matches. The signs that say “Clara, I’m waiting for you” and shit