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  • Someone made a very conscious choice to create a community explicitly based on hate. I am a disabled person who has been abused because of the hate that is welcomed on that community. I wish not to be abused by hateful people in the future.

    And you believe I am the one who longs for conflict.

    Holy victim blaming, batman. You are an absurd caricature of a conservative. The mind boggles as it attempts to comprehend the fact that someone who thinks like you exists. I hope you are either educated, or never allowed into a neurodivergent space again.


  • the very nature of narcissism generally causes harm to those around them

    No, it doesn’t. The very nature of narcissism causes narcissists to be more vulnerable to social harm. Some narcissists choose to respond to perceived violence with violence in kind, but this choice is not a symptom of the disorder and wouldn’t exist if NPD were properly accommodated.

    Besides it says fuck narcissism not fuck narcissists so you don’t even know if they are referring to the people or just narcissism in general.

    Ah, so you’d be equally okay with a community called Fuck Autism? Because that seems to be the level of ableist hate you’re operating on.


  • I think the caveat “Child abuse causes NPD if genetic and neurological factors align” to be obvious and irrelevant. Of course child abuse results in different presentations depending on the individual child, that’s why there are 10 personality disorders instead of 1. But I don’t think the fact that I happened to have the genetics that make me respond to abuse with grandiosity instead of with antisocial behaviour is interesting or important. The mechanism I have described holds true for people of my genetic and neurological mechanisms, and it is easy enough to understand without overcomplicating it.

    The only reason I can see that someone would pay attention to the genetic component of NPD in a sociological or political discussion is if they wanted to make the argument that narcissism is racial.






  • Yelling and forced awakeness can often be violent. Your creative partner owed you the performative attention of quietness, and your romantic partner owed you the performative attention of patience.

    Failing to accommodate for your volume and sleep needs is a failure on their part to accommodate for your lack of ability. Needing sleep isn’t a disability, it’s completely normal, but it’s still a lacking ability that they failed to address. My points that performative attention and accommodation for disability are owed apply just as well to your abusers as they do to you. I hold them to the same standard and I hold them accountable for choosing violence. I believe they had the potential, under the right circumstances, to learn to get along with people who enjoy quiet and sleep. Just as I had, and fulfilled, the potential to get along with narcissists and borderlines. I believe all these skills can be learned by anyone.



  • I couldn’t really provide the social needs this person needed without completely denying my own needs.

    I don’t believe in that. I think you made the right choice moving away and I’ve had to make similar choices in the past. Our abilities are not limitless. But I don’t believe in what you said, either. Life experiences and an inquisitive mind have given me a tremendous ability to deal with BPD and NPD people. I learned how other people and myself think with these disorders, and now I can see straight through all the trauma mechanisms and the bullshit, and I can manage people who have it. I don’t think this ability is inherently beyond anyone, it just takes the right experiences coupled with tenacity and curiosity. I don’t believe you had access to those experiences and I hold your accountable for nothing that happened. But I am frustrated with the unwillingness of some neurotypicals to deal with NDs that comes from statements like this. Inclusivity is a skill. It can be taught and learned. Nobody is beyond help from a mentor with the right skillset.