Can’t catch a break

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Cake day: October 12th, 2023

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  • Not belonging. Never knowing if who I am will stop me from getting the help I need.

    When I left my ex, I needed state enforcement to stop him from hurting me again. Years later, I began dating a woman. It was terrifying to know that if someone doesn’t like it, they can give him access to me or my daughter again. Has he gotten bored with us? No, unfortunately. Constant vigilance. No mistakes.

    I work in a male dominated field. Which is hard enough as a woman. But I managed to keep being promoted. I was able to provide for my family. Until they found out I was gay. Then my reviews were lukewarm, I got shut out of important meetings, and there was no more opportunity for growth.

    I lie on my paperwork for doctors now. I’ve had one gyno go from friendly to cold with me after asking about my partner. (I find it’s best to always say you’re single anyway, that way they don’t seek permission from anyone you might be involved with.) I thought it was relevant because it was care for my genitals. But I can’t trust it. I’m already ignored enough at the doctor. I don’t need to give them even more reasons.

    It shouldn’t be like this. I shouldn’t have to hide things about myself just to live.








  • No, I would not want to be tied to an employer at all.

    People get stuck because their means of living are tied to their job. That is, the means of getting housing, food/other essentials, and healthcare.

    My healthcare should not be tied to my employer.

    Housing should be attainable for an average joe with no extra help from places like family. Seeking cheaper housing alternatives should not be blocked off, like living in a tiny house on wheels or sleeping in your car or living in a tent. (Ideally, no one should have to do that… But someone in a desperate situation shouldn’t be punished if they’re not doing anything wrong.)

    Getting the things I need should not require me to have a car. (Car = $$$) I should be able to walk or use affordable, dependable, available public transportation.

    UBI and universal healthcare would solve a lot of this. If an employer doesn’t want me, fine they can let me go. But if I don’t want them, also fine. Either way, it should be that anyone should be able to live if they suddenly leave their employer for any reason. I would not be opposed to a mandatory two weeks/one month of notice or severance.




  • I would think that removing the barriers to voting that affect younger voters is the better option, along with getting rid of the electoral college and allowing felons to vote. Taking away voting rights for certain classes of citizens is a slippery slope, especially when the root problem is some votes count more than others and many potential votes never make it to the polls.




  • I’m guessing you have the audacity to speak more directly and unapologetically. For example, if you were at the table and you needed the salt, a stereotypical polite man way to say it would be “Pass the salt, please.” And a stereotypical woman way might be “sorry, can you pass the salt, please?”

    I’m not sure how deep this person’s thoughts go, but she might be expecting some more “squee,” cutesy or baby type phrases, said with a higher pitch instead of speaking with fewer qualifiers in a flatter tone.