I think you are too harsh to yourself. Its not just doing whatever. Doing these things change a lot for you and you do not know how people around will react. Its totally understandable that you are blocked doing all these things although it will most probably make you feel better. It needs a lot of courage i think. If at some point you do it you can be really proud of yourself! I hope this moment is sooner than you think and i hope you have or find supportive people in your area.

I am sorry you feel that way. You really dont owe any doctor a success story. You are beautiful just the way you are.

Can you move or at least make holidays somewhere where you can dress as you like, to regain a bit of confidence?

I would put it like this: Before you are going to explain something in Detail that you are curious about ASK the other Person if by Chance she knows about it already. If so, let her explain it to you or have a fruitful discussion on it together (with that i mean , take care both of you speak in equal parts), but do not start to explain the basics again. Its Boring and offending if she already knows and on top embarrassing if you Make mistakes. At least the last is called mansplaining. In General and especially in a date, the “take care both of you speak an equal amount of time” is a good advice. ;) although, i know its sometimes hard for adhd people, when you get carried away with a topic and i know its not done in purpose. If you follow this, i dont think you should be shy about your topics in conversations and dating Situations.

Oh really? I always thought mansplaining involves also true facts that are explained to me even though i defintiely know and they know already i do. It happens to me a lot since i am a scientist…

For example during corona a carpenter explained me how a PCR test works, knowing I studied something with biology and already did PCR during my studies myself. He was right in his a little superfacial description of it. Still, i just was super baffled, that someone i just told i studied and did that already myself, who himself is not from the field and never did it, feels the urge to explain the method to me as if he was my highschoolteacher. To me thats mansplaining as well, even though he was right in his description. But maybe i got the Definition wrong. If thats not mansplaining, how do you call it then? It happens Quite often to me … (Corona was special though, suddenly everyone was a scientist. :D).

I did a quick search. A liter of vodka has about 23 shots. So 5,3l in a year is equivalent to 122 shots per year. Thats 2.35 shots per week. Since usually u drink at least two shots when you start with one, one could asume they only drink once a week about 2 shots, 3 on a special day.

In my experience all the good arguments in governments that change, big companies making money etc are still too abstract to people.

But i have found one argument that at least made women and older men with daughters think about it. Stalking. With reverse image search and stupid people finder apps and ai that can estimate how you look now based on an old picture and vice versa, stalking got soooo easy. Anyone can just secretely take a picture of a girl they find interesting in public and find her social media profile and see where she usually hangs out etc. (Of course also all other genders get stalked - this is just the most known example).

Currently its 40min one way. Before I lived in a smaller City , so the way to work was only 15min.

When i leave work i force myself to not think about it anymore until the Next Working day. I Turn off work Mails etc.

I commute to work by bike, more than 30min. It somehow helps to leave work behind on my way back. While my thoughts are still work related at the beginning of my ride I think about other things when reaching home.

Sport and making music, where you have to focus on something else than your current stress are also very helpful to silence the stress thoughts.

And of course talking about it with friends.

Its just small humans then. :D

Is lineage nowadaxs as good AS graphene ans calyx? I had it 10 years ago in a phone and when i switched to graphene it was so much better. But the list lof small phones they have is promising. Thanks!