Womens friendships breaking up can be painful, a relief, or just plain messy. What was the thing that ruined one of yours?

  • MTK@lemmy.world
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    1 month ago

    I had a friend, she was my BFF, at somepoint she got really sick and she spent a few weeks at the hospital but eventually she was stabilized and released. No one could figure out what she had and all the doctors could do was help manage her symptoms. Over the years the emotional and physical pain only grew and once she got some mental health diagnoses doctors just started dismissing her physical symptoms as “stress”. I watched her go from this wonderful, hopeful, caring and empathetic person, to a depressed, sucidal, uncaring person that could not see the good in the world. It sucks, I always believed that I would be there for her no matter what, but after years of having a one sided abusive friendship, I realised that I had to move on.

    I’m not proud of it, I wish there was more I could do. But at some point you have to ask yourself if you are willing to sacrifice your happiness for someone who is emotionally abusive. I wish it was just a phase, I tried everything for over 3 years of gradually worsening abuse, but it just got worse.