Seven years of friendship down the drain because while at a park together there was a large group of Puerto Ricans. It was then she decided to, loudly, let me know her distain for the people, not just folks from PR but all Spanish speaking people. All of them. Wtf.
About a month prior her recent high school graduate son, decided to use tik tok as his research reference to explain to me why the earth was flat- I laughed in his face tbh and told him to get that nonsense out of my face, asked how he graduated without knowing how scientific research works.
I just ghosted her. The racist shit was the nail in the coffin, I am just upset it took so long for me to realize that was her opinion. The stuff with her son just made me lose respect for her as a mother. Her response to to me sbout her son was a joke, “hey, I believe in spheres”.
Looking back on the friendship, idk if it was even that. More than once I just felt like her therapist. She’d only ever come over to my place for a “shesh”. She never invited me out to anything she was doing. Sometimes we’d have our sesh hiking, but often I felt it was a “her” dominant friendship.
She also blew her entire inheritance, a quarter mil, in 10months. Botox, temu, pre made food from the fancy expensive place, $20,000 veneers, 100 shoes, clothes, makeup. She did buy her daughter a car, and herself a car, probably a good thing because around the time she decided to drop her racist opinions, the money was about to run out and she was planning to move into her car.
How do you go from a quarter million to homeless in ten months is beyond me. Most of it was chasing her vainity because as a 40 year old woman, her self confidence was in the shitter, and only cared about looking young and pretty. She was beautiful and I loved her scrunchy wrinkles on her forehead. She didnt need to chase vainity spending $100,000 or more on it. I told her to find a man who loved her for her, my husband loves me just as I am, she could have that. She didnt need multiple botox injections and fake teeth to find that. She was out of work due to a injury sustained from an accident, she needed to budget her money. It was so foolish. She was so focused on finding a partner after leaving a toxic 20 year relationship… too focused on it. She basically only stayed with guys who would put her down. She would cry to me about the mean things they would say to her, and then go back to them. I lost another friend to this once before. Don’t date men who call you names. If you have the means to leave, and chose not to, it’s on you after a time. Chosen suffering.
Anyway, She lost her business during this time, and Idk how she’s doing today. She was a fun gal who just made consistent horrible choices. I was already starting to distance myself beforehand, she just helped me seal the deal with her ignorant comments. A younger version of me would have tried to teach her how ignorant and racist she was being, but with so much to overwhelm me with this friendship, it was easier this way. I do still wonder how life worked out for her these last few years.
Seven years of friendship down the drain because while at a park together there was a large group of Puerto Ricans. It was then she decided to, loudly, let me know her distain for the people, not just folks from PR but all Spanish speaking people. All of them. Wtf.
About a month prior her recent high school graduate son, decided to use tik tok as his research reference to explain to me why the earth was flat- I laughed in his face tbh and told him to get that nonsense out of my face, asked how he graduated without knowing how scientific research works.
I just ghosted her. The racist shit was the nail in the coffin, I am just upset it took so long for me to realize that was her opinion. The stuff with her son just made me lose respect for her as a mother. Her response to to me sbout her son was a joke, “hey, I believe in spheres”.
Looking back on the friendship, idk if it was even that. More than once I just felt like her therapist. She’d only ever come over to my place for a “shesh”. She never invited me out to anything she was doing. Sometimes we’d have our sesh hiking, but often I felt it was a “her” dominant friendship.
She also blew her entire inheritance, a quarter mil, in 10months. Botox, temu, pre made food from the fancy expensive place, $20,000 veneers, 100 shoes, clothes, makeup. She did buy her daughter a car, and herself a car, probably a good thing because around the time she decided to drop her racist opinions, the money was about to run out and she was planning to move into her car.
How do you go from a quarter million to homeless in ten months is beyond me. Most of it was chasing her vainity because as a 40 year old woman, her self confidence was in the shitter, and only cared about looking young and pretty. She was beautiful and I loved her scrunchy wrinkles on her forehead. She didnt need to chase vainity spending $100,000 or more on it. I told her to find a man who loved her for her, my husband loves me just as I am, she could have that. She didnt need multiple botox injections and fake teeth to find that. She was out of work due to a injury sustained from an accident, she needed to budget her money. It was so foolish. She was so focused on finding a partner after leaving a toxic 20 year relationship… too focused on it. She basically only stayed with guys who would put her down. She would cry to me about the mean things they would say to her, and then go back to them. I lost another friend to this once before. Don’t date men who call you names. If you have the means to leave, and chose not to, it’s on you after a time. Chosen suffering.
Anyway, She lost her business during this time, and Idk how she’s doing today. She was a fun gal who just made consistent horrible choices. I was already starting to distance myself beforehand, she just helped me seal the deal with her ignorant comments. A younger version of me would have tried to teach her how ignorant and racist she was being, but with so much to overwhelm me with this friendship, it was easier this way. I do still wonder how life worked out for her these last few years.