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  • SparkleBooty@lemmy.worldtoWomensStuff@piefed.blahaj.zone•Is it giving up or choosing an independent life?
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    3 months ago

    Women aren’t “ditching dating for cats.” They’re reacting to the fallout of modern feminism blowing up the old relationship structure.

    For decades, feminism pushed the idea that women shouldn’t rely on a man, shouldn’t stay home, shouldn’t want a provider, shouldn’t want traditional roles. That message didn’t just change women — it changed men. The kind of men who used to take pride in providing, protecting, and leading in a family? They were shamed, labeled oppressive, or told their masculinity was toxic.

    So what happened?

    Now you’ve got a generation of men who don’t want to — or straight up can’t — provide. Men who expect both people to work full-time because that’s “modern equality,” but still want the woman to handle the home because they were raised that way. The traditional man who actually took responsibility, carried the load, and made it possible for a woman to be a stay-at-home wife? Practically extinct.

    Women didn’t stop wanting that option. The option disappeared.

    So when women look around and realize the only deals available are:

    Work full-time

    Do most of the housework

    Take care of the kids

    Split bills 50/50 with a man who isn’t stepping up

    And still be told they’re “lucky”

    They’re not choosing cats instead of men.

    They’re choosing cats instead of a lopsided relationship where the masculine role was gutted, traditional values are gone, and the kind of good men they actually want no longer exist in meaningful numbers.

    It’s not that women changed. It’s that feminism wiped out the men who made traditional life possible.

    That’s the problem.